Making room for that someone special
From dating to moving in calls for some serious celebration and…erm, some home cleaning and lifestyle changes. Yep, budge over, it’s not just you anymore. Inviting someone to share that place you territorially proud of is a big deal but if you really want them to feel welcome, you have to make some room for them. Not doing so will make them feel like they are imposing more than making you happy. They won’t feel like home no matter how hard they try and if you want them to be more than just a house guest for a weekend, you need to make a few little tweaks here or there.
Whatever you haven’t worn it the past year, give to Charity. It’s time to do some cleaning out if you want to make room in your life for that special someone – male or female. Remember that is just a big a step to move into your space as it is to have them move in. Make them feel (no matter how scary it might be) that you really want this for both of you. Don’t just shove aside your clothes and give them a few spare clothes hangers, go halves with the wardrobe space or invest in a bigger wardrobe. Clean out the chest of drawers and ensure they have space for their things. Just because it’s your place, do you get the bigger share of everything. Newsflash – relationships don’t work like this. Make her/him conscious that this is your house and not theirs, you can expect to say ‘goodbye’ as quickly as you said ‘hello’.
If the bed is against the wall then this doesn’t really work but where you can, try to reassess the room with fresh eyes and see how you could possibly re-juggle the furniture. Just because you live together doesn’t mean you will always want to turn lights out at the same time, all the time. A bed table and bedside light each will help make the bedroom routine adjustments just that tad bit easier.
Providing room for hair products and gels in the shower caddy and cleaning out a side of the cabinet above the sink will go a long way in saying “I’m happy you are moving in with me”. Think about it this way, if you have guests over for dinner one night– would you want them to see your personal life strewn all over the bathroom? No, I didn’t think so and your other half doesn’t won’t want theirs on show either.
The Man Drawer
Women joke about it, men can’t live without it. Maybe you both need a drawer of your own or establish a communal one but any efforts made in keeping all the ‘one day I might need that’ items in a drawer rather than leaving them to take over the living room bookshelf, kitchen table, bedroom floor or the entire garage will definitely be much appreciated. If you are excessively messy – make the effort to say ‘I love you’ with some much needed containers.
Making A New Start
It’s new chapter for you both. Invest in some fresh linens and towels at least or if your bed needs it, a new mattress. It’s no longer about the memories you hold in your prized pad but the new ones you two will make together, be it in the bedroom or in the kitchen over a cup of coffee. Freshen up, tidy up and make space for your new arrival. Think of it this way; if you wouldn’t want to live in someone else’s used shoes, why would they!
It’s Not All About You Anymore!
Yes, it’s your place but her/his taste, style and choices matter just as much as yours and you need to accommodate them just as they will need to make their own adjustments for you. If there is something they just can’t live with, try where possible to establish a compromise and move it to a different location. If the walls need a new lease of life – don’t think about it, just do it. Your efforts won’t go unnoticed; in fact they are more likely to find it all rather touching.